So this weekend I have so far: 

- spent nine hours in a car...

- driven through three different nations...

- drunk only seven cups of tea...

- written two poems...

- argued with my brother about parcel-opening etiquette, the pronunciation of 'demeanor', the existence of Sean Kingston and the first appearance of James May on Top Gear...

- saved a dying plant...

- and ignored most of the work I was supposed to to over Easter.

Sigh.

I had a very nice time in Edinburgh last week though. Lots of tea was drunk, I got to see Char, I ran an okay 5k and met some people from Fetch, which is my favourite (not-an-actual-) place in the world. I bought myself a new collection of poetry, and then I bought Anita Diamant's The Red Tent, and finished it in a matter of hours. Genuinely, the best thing I've read in... Christ, ages. 

It's weird, I haven't really had much time to read what I've wanted to read while I've been at university, which is kind of depressing in itself. What's been more depressing though is that I hadn't really enjoyed anything I'd had to read for uni. With just three exceptions. 

Exception No. 1: Samuel Beckett - Waiting for Godot.

Which I was sort of already in love with. I wrote my extended essay for my IB about Waiting for Godot... I was also in it before (I was Vladimir, which was interesting) so I knew it pretty well. So I'm not counting this as a book I read for uni. So, really, it's not an exception at all. I'm confused...

Exception No. 2: Angela Carter - The Magic Toyshop.

We read this one just after Christmas. I originally wasn't even going to bother reading it because my edition has quite a horrible cover and I'm quite easily influenced. But I got very taken in by it and basically existed in a trance until I'd finished it. And then we did Freud who totally ruined it for me, but I'm working on forgetting about him. Freud never happened. We never talk about Freud.

Exception No. 3: Primo Levi - If This Is A Man

Weirdly, weirdly gripping and wonderful. ALSO, absolutely horrible and heart-breaking. I had to hide it in a spare pillowcase for a few days after I'd finished it so I wouldn't have to look at it. 

When I read The Magic Toyshop, it renewed my faith that there are actually good books out there. Somewhere out there between the Conrads, Ngugis, Bowens and Kureishis there are people who write interesting, engaging and imaginative thinks. Thank GOD.

And then I had a good week when we read Primo Levi. But whenever I think about Primo Levi, I can't help but feel like I have to read some Dave Gorman or Danny Wallace to counter the utter sadness. 

That's not to say that Levi is... it's not like he wallows in self-pity and he always seems quite calm and... well, he has the odd burst of venom - there's one point where he says something about all Germans having an infantile delight in shiny, many-coloured objects - but you can't ever really get away from the actual subject. It's a very, very good book and I'm glad I've read it and I want other people to read it, but it is depressing.

But apparently reading The Truce afterwards will reaffirm some faith in humanity. Books to read: The Truce.

So, anyway. The Red Tent is the best book I've read in a long time, and it's the only book I've been able to read for myself since July. Sob. And it was brilliant - it took me until 2am one night to finish it and I went to bed in an absolute state and felt in pieces for all of the next day. Which clearly is the marking of a good book. Clearly. 

Anyway, now I'm going to make another list. This time it's going to be a brief list of my favourite books. And we're not including poetry, because it's a Sunday, and I'm hungry and supposed to be working, and poetry would just take too long:

10. Gustave Flaubert - Madame Bovary

Here is quite a big secret: I hate Flaubert. I read Madame Bovary for the first time over a period of a few days while lying in the front garden with my feet in a small children's paddling pool. I read a very bad translation and often got distracted because the Tour de France was on and it was distinctly more exciting than Flaubert. Flaubert also has this annoying habit of using six hundred words when one will do. A description of a woman's hands may take five pages, for example. And, of course, there are basically only five points in the plot, but Flaubert stretches them out to cover about a million pages. BUT, and this is something we never talk about, Madame Bovary is genuinely a very good book. It's long and flamboyant and really, really irritating. But, it's also weirdly compelling. And it gives you a nice feeling to finish it. But, anyway, we never talk about Madame Bovary.

9. Leo Tolstoy - War & Peace

Now, in utter truth, I haven't yet finished War & Peace. I desperately, desperately want to, but I can't. This is because Tolstoy has already killed off my favourite character and it was looking more and more likely that he was going to kill off my new favourite character, who I'd also fallen in love with by this point (sigh), so I had to stop reading. I can't cope with it just yet. Sorry. But I can't. It's just too awful. The book, however, is brilliant. Tolstoy gives us a ridiculously long and detailed lesson in Russian history, with slightly dull and unnecessary focus on its military tactics and dealings. Somehow though, he still manages to give extraordinary personalities and development to every one of his characters, and the (STUPIDLY LONG) story is beautifully told. But, it is absolutely crucial to have the Anthony Briggs translation. His translation has this real vividness and liveliness that I couldn't find anywhere in any other version. God help anyone who tries to read an earlier edition.

8. Glen Duncan - I, Lucifer

Not the most serious of books, but fantastic for it. The voice is sharp, witty, charming, disgusting and deliciously insane. The narrative is massive and wandering and doesn't like to be confined by silly things like time or realism. The plot is odd, but interesting - Lucifer is offered what he views as a holiday, a chance to live in a human's body (the body of a writer, to be precise, the imaginatively named Declan Gunn) on Earth for a bit. It's very playful, very daring and very, very funny. 

7. Charles Dickens - Hard Times

I've come to the conclusion that I don't really like Dickens when he writes things set in London. Not really sure why this is. The solution, however, is the Coketown setting of Hard Times. It's surprisingly easy reading - you don't even have to think for yourself because Mr. Dickens is only too happy to tell you what you think. It is also nice to occasionally read something which you know will have all its loose ends securely tied by the end. The only downside, really, is Dickens' awful attempt at writing a working class accent. Please, Charles; don't try.

6. Malorie Blackman - Noughts & Crosses

Okay, yes, so strictly speaking it's a children's/young adults' book. But that doesn't change the fact that it's written beautifully and uses the story of Romeo & Juliet better than Romeo & Juliet. It's also one of those devastating books that you may find yourself still getting upset over years lately. Sob.

5. Dave Gorman & Danny Wallace - Are You Dave Gorman?

Not very literary, not very serious, but fun, obsessive and wonderfully self-indulgent and ridiculous; Dave Gorman tries to prove that he can find and meet 54 other people called Dave Gorman. His sheer madness is countered brilliantly by Danny Wallace as the voice of reason. Who, er, isn't always the voice of reason at all, and in fact often turns out to be the voice of the devil on Dave Gorman's shoulder. Excellent book.

4. Angela Carter - The Magic Toyshop

A very weird little book with a diabolical plot. It can be ruined a bit by going in and analysing every paragraph and I really do think that ignoring all Freud references is the way to go, but Carter's writing is undeniably fantastic. The story is disturbing and engaging, and wonderfully told. 

3. Anita Diamant - The Red Tent

Another weird one - Diamant imagines and tells the story of the Biblical character Dinah and her family. It's a pretty epic book, which manages to start about twenty years before the narrator, Dinah herself, is even born, and continue until after her death. It also manages to pull this off, which is no mean feat, considering. The plot is long and fairly devastating, but it is also extremely hopeful, life-affirming and weirdly empowering. 

2. Danny Wallace - Yes Man

I firmly believe that if any book in the world, in any language and from any time, had the ability to change a person's life, it'd be this one. It sounds like a contrived premise (Wallace decides that he will say YES to every question, invitation and suggestion...) but it is by no means a contrived story. It is horrendously, outrageously funny, and deliciously happy and joyful. Cannot be recommended highly enough.

1. Kate Chopin - The Awakening

I had to read The Awakening for college a couple of years ago, and was quite worried when I was told that it had the same plot as Madame Bovary. Which is true. It has pretty much exactly the same plot as Madame Bovary. However, Chopin's Edna is much more likable and understandable than Flaubert's Emma. While Flaubert seems to be even cruel towards his character, Chopin writes Edna Pontellier so that we understand her and are sympathetic towards her. The whole novella feels carefully worked and written, but it still feels free-flowing and always seems to have a sense of purpose. It's also just a little bit heart-breaking.

Ten ways I've wasted my time this evening

10. Dave Gorman creates a unicorn
9. Bill Bailey and the Have I Got News For You boys play Name that News
8. Amphibious cars.
7. The mysterious Charlie joins Josie Lawrence, Tony Slattery and Paul Merton.
6. Danny Wallace sings his anthem.
5. Tony Slattery hosts a very interesting party.
4. Have I got pot noodles for you.
3. Some things are entirely out of order.
2. Greg Proops celebrates losing his virginity.
1. The Top Gear boys make a mini ski.

I try to be like Grace Kelly...

That's a lie, right there. I very rarely try to be like Grace Kelly. In fact, I don't think I've ever attempted a Grace Kelly imitation. I don't think I'd be very good at it.

Anyhow. So on Friday I came home and yesterday I drove to Exeter with my mum to see my brother in Exeter. Somewhere between the drive there and the drive back, I bought a new computer. I can't really justify it.

Anyway, that's not the point. In the car on the way back, we were listening to Mika. 

Mika's Grace Kelly is one of those songs that makes me unaccountably happy. There's something about the pace of it and the way he squeaks when he says 'purple', it's just... oooh. 

At uni, whenever Sideburns-Earrings comes over, we always play our wonderful YouTube music game. Basically, one of us puts on a rather fantastic songs on YouTube and then the next person does and then we go on like that for a few hours. But it's quite cool cuz Sideburns-Earring and I tend to play songs that make us happy, or songs associated with really good memories, which we can then discuss in great detail. Anyway, so, I decided to make a list of the happiest songs to have featured in this highly technical and complicated game (ie. mostly songs Sideburns-Earrings and I were in love with when we were fourteen :D). SO:

20. In Too Deep - Sum 41

Okay, so, yes, we are all quite ashamed of Sum 41 now... but it was a close call between this, Teenage Dirtbag and She Hates Me... this won because nobody I know can honestly deny liking it at the time ;)

19. Do You Know? - Enrique Iglesias

To be absolutely honest though, Sideburns-Earrings does genuinely hate this and won't ever let me play it all the way through. But come on! Enrique Iglesias! In monochrome! With table tennis! There is NOTHING about this not to like.

18. MMMBop - Hanson

You really can't help grinning, can you?

17. Carrie Anne - The Hollies

Mmmm... This reminds me of a certain barbecue in France. There was a pool, gluten free food, two gorgeous ginger kittens and strawberry sorbet. Very happy thought indeed.

16. Everybody - Sister Hazel

'Like a junkie to a rush / I'd trade my mama for your touch / oh wait, that might just be too much / well, I'd do anything but that' - a lovely, honest song ;)

15. This Kiss - Faith Hill

Because fairytale references in pop songs are the future.

14. What I Go To School For - Busted

Oh, Busted... why did you have to break up? I sobbed, eyes streaming with tears. Sideburns-Earrings disagrees strongly, but, come on, their videos were a laugh and the lyrics were clever. Not even Shakespeare could pen a couplet like 'she drops a pencil on the floor / she bends down and shows me more'.

13. Heaven Is A Halfpipe - OPM

This is the song that made Sideburns-Earrings forgive me for playing Enrique Iglesias. Also, I remember a boy in my form coming into a French lesson singing this in year seven, and all the boys in the class joined in. 

12. Follow Me - Uncle Kracker

GOD knows how Uncle Kracker managed to come up with this song, but, well, there it is. Simple, bouncy and lovely, and something that we've all sung on the way to seminars in the rain. 

11. I Believe In A Thing Called Love - The Darkness

This song was amazing because everyone at school was united about it when it came out. I remember walking down a corridor at school and hearing one of my mates singing it behind me; then I turned the corner and one of the peroxide girls was singing it. I went into my English classroom and my teacher was humming it. 

10. Sherry Darling - Bruce Springsteen

Because Springsteen is God, and this song is fantastic. I haven't been able to stop singing it all morning. Phwoar.

9. Save Tonight - Eagle Eye Cherry

Okay, so technically it's probably a sad song... but it works :)

8. I'll Be There For You - The Rembrants

I'm not sure if it's because it's the Friends theme or if it's just pure class by itself... but you play this song and everyone does the handclaps and then joins in on the chorus. You can't not.

7. The Remedy (I Won't Worry) - Jason Mraz

Jason Mraz is a) a lyric genius, b) gorgeous and c) a brilliant singer. Totally worth going from Swansea to Edinburgh to see him live ;)

6. Semi-Charmed Life - Third Eye Blind

Yes, well... it is a song about doing drugs... but it's so happy! 

5. You're Gorgeous - Babybird

Obscene lyrics and a truly bizarre video, but what sentiment ;)

4. Grace Kelly - Mika

Last year I was at home ill and listening to the radio. This and Ruby were the only things I heard all day. This is amazing; Ruby is rubbish.

3. Breakfast At Tiffany's - Deep Blue Something

The video doesn't make much sense, admittedly, but the guitars are genuinely a cure for depression. Genuinely.

2. I Wanna Be With You - Bruce Springsteen

Bruce Springsteen is the only person in the world who can pull off a lyric like 'I just don't understand it / you're not pretty at all', and this song is such a mood-enhancer. Mmmmmboy.

1. I'm Yours - Jason Mraz

This only beats Bruce by a tiny, tiny amount... I don't even know why it wins. But this song = happiest thought ever.

the land of my fathers... except, not, really... technically...

I'm Welsh.

I'd just like to get that out into the open.

Admittedly I was born in England in Robbie Williams/Denry Machin territory, but I've lived in Wales since I was about six months old and my grandparents had a Welsh collie called Glyn Bach, my GCSE certificates say WJEC on them, I swim in the Wales National Pool and I support Wales in the rugby. I've been specially commended in the Welsh Poetry Competition, and once last year I wrote several poems about dead sheep. As far as I'm concerned, that's Welsh.

Which is why when Wales SLAUGHTERED England at the rugby on Saturday, I had to spend £5 credit texting every English rugby fan I knew to basically say 'haha, gutted, England lost, you suck, we rock nyanyanya naaaaaaaaa'.

Replies were mixed. The Northerner, for example, replied in agreement, that England made some stupid, schoolboy errors. Sideburns-Earrings replied with a confusing:

'Hate 2 break it 2 u, but rugby doesn't matter...



howeva, u do. So how r u? x x x'

They both hid their heartbreak well.

I then went to tri training on Sunday night. When I ran into some of the club outside the sports centre, they were distinctly unimpressed by my red attire. We then discussed the rugby in detail at the poolside. The basic conversation went:

THEM: We were doing so well!

ME: Yeah, but you messed up in the second half...

THEM: No!

ME: Yeah!

THEM: NO!

Etc.

What with it being the time of the Six Nations and all that, I've sort of been pondering nationalities and this thing of whether or not you can really take pride in where you come from anymore, or even if you're allowed to. I mean, waving an English flag in our present social climate is pretty much the same as waving an advert for the BNP or UKIP.

In England, if you walk down the street in a Welsh rugby shirt, you get a bottle of water thrown at you from the window of a white van. Yep, that happened to me today. We never talk about the White Van Incident.

My friend Charly doesn't really approve of national pride, on account of the fact that you can't really choose where your born or what nation you belong to. Or what nation belongs to you. Either way, I have to disagree...

I really love loving where I come from, and, moreover, I really love other people who love where they come from. I don't mean that you necessarily have to love your leaders and your government or any of that stuff, but I mean that it ought to make us feel good seeing our nation thrash another nation at the rugby and it should make us feel good when Nicole Cooke wins the Tour or Joe Calzaghe wins a match.

Last year on St David's Day, I saw The Storys play at the Swansea Grand - genuinely, the Welshest spectacle of my entire life. There were daffodils and cuddly dragons on stage, the first support act, This River, played Calon Lan, The Storys themselves played Hen Wlad Fy Nhadau as their encore... it was brilliant. I mean, as a gig it went on a bit, but it was a brilliant atmosphere, to have this big band from the area come back and play with littler (but FANTASTIC) bands from around the place... it was the perfect way to spend St David's Day. Fact.

Also, at college a couple of years ago we got filed into the hall the week before the Six Nations started to sing the national anthem. We were given a little book of 'Traditional Welsh Songs' which included Hen Wlad Fy Nhadau, Calon Lan, Sospan Fach and, most peculiarly, Delilah.

But, anyway, what I mean is that it's great to embrace the weird little oddities of your home. I'm terribly homesick at the moment and it's making me more Welsh than ever before. It's only miles away in England, staring at pages and pages of English books about English that I'm realising how much I regret not actually being able to speak Welsh. Or at least, not properly. I'm now determined that after I finish uni, I'm going straight back home to the Graveyard of Ambition, where I intend to go back to college and learn Welsh, properly. I then never intend to leave Swansea again.

The thing about Swansea... it's only in that daft little town that a dual carriageway could ever be given the name of 'Sketty Lane'. Only there that a school could be called 'Olchfa' which, as we all know, translates to 'washing place'. Only Swansea serves Joe's Ice Cream. Swansea may be an ugly, lovely town and/or a pretty shitty city (depending on whether you listen to Dylan Thomas or the 'bent coppers' of Twin Town), but it has a personality.

Add to that a Wales rugby win, AT TWICKENHAM... Well. Move over, England.

(Photo: BBC News)

we never talk about our sleeping patterns

Mine are quite weird at the moment. Last night was supposed to be an early night, but was delayed until half past one by the presence of the Lord and the Cat and me not wanting to go to bed for fear of having another nightmare.

I've been having a lot of nightmares lately.

On one of my first nights back at university, I dreamt that someone was breaking into our house, and when I looked out of my bedroom window I saw a man running around our cul-de-sac carrying a pizza box. I thought he must be delivering a pizza, but then he looked up and saw me, and through the box at my window. I screamed and my parents ran in. My dad called the police and my mother insisted on hiding all the Christmas presents in the attic so that no prospective burglar would find them. When the police arrived, they parked in our front porch and insisted on talking about the weather, and Christmas, and Sunday lunch before they'd talk about the creepy man running around in circles outside.

And earlier this week I had a dream which is pretty hazy now, but somehow included a highly dangerous, laser-filled garden, Alicia Silverstone, Alicia Silverstone's birthday, an evil stepmother, a swimming pool, a plunge pool that descended into the ground, a shower cubicle, and a rendition of Eternal Flame performed by The Bangles.

It also featured a bloke called Adrian, whose main purpose in the dream appeared to be pausing significantly mid-sentence.

He also bore a striking resemblance to a bloke I used to have nightmares about when I was a kid...

When I was about six I had recurring nightmares about running through a field of yellow, knee-high wheat (the field looked exactly like a field in one of our parents' friends' gardens only in real life it was just long, dying grass), away from the cut and trampled path that ran in a triangular shape from one corner of the field to the centre on the opposite side, and then back to the other corner on the opposite side. I was being chased by someone, this bloke, who I couldn't see but I could hear behind me, and when he finally caught up with me he took me somewhere with lots of tents and said something I never heard. In retrospect, it wasn't very scary. His name was Ollie and he wore his hair in blonde curtains. In my dream the other night, this very 90s vision of the male was updated and so the mysterious Ollie became the mysterious Adrian, and he'd had a haircut.

I'm starting to wonder about what I eat before I go to bed.

But then, I've always had really weird dreams.

When I was sixteen I had nightmares about several London museums. Only now I can't remember them very well and sometimes I wonder if I made them up afterwards. In any case, we never talk about the London museums.

I also once had a dream that my GCSE Chemistry teacher was systematically poisoning our year group with science goggles filled with bright red liquid cancer. Although, to be fair to him, he did offer one boy the choice of a leprosy sandwich, with or without tomatoes.

I think in that dream we were eventually rescued by one boy dressing up as Peter Pan and providing us all with Chemistry-resistant drugs, which looked suspiciously like Mint Imperials.

I bet Freud would really like this.

We were studying Freud last week... I think it was generally agreed that he's sometimes a useful starting point, but that it's essentially all... well, I can't put that nicely. So, er, maybe it's best that we never talk about Freud.

Anyway, moving on from that...

I finished reading If This Is A Man today. I actually quite like it, which feels a bit sick to say considering what it's about. But it's quite... I like that it's understated, how Levi doesn't feel the need to spell out on every page just how awful it all was. I like how he just gets on with his story, with telling us what he experienced, and because he only tells us what he experienced himself he focuses more on the living than of the dead, which makes it somehow simultaneously both more and less bearable as a subject.

When I was a kid, I remember being thrilled when I discovered the word 'simultaneously' in a Jacqueline Wilson book. I also remember being thrilled to discover 'in unison'. I guess I must've been pretty easily pleased as a child.

Anyway. I'm sure there was a point to this. Or maybe I'm just killing time again.

I'm kind of dreading tomorrow. It starts with the seminar on If This Is A Man... I'm dreading it because I'm not really sure how you start talking about something like that. I mean, generally our seminar discussions start with our tutor asking us all how we liked the book and someone saying that they really enjoyed it and then someone else groaning and saying it was awful. And that probably won't happen with Levi.

I sort of want to read some of his other stuff now. I want to read The Truce and The Periodic Table because I felt like his voice was kind of reliable and honest and I thought he put things incredibly well. Like, there's this bit where he writes:

It is lucky that it is not windy today. Strange, how in some way one always has the impression of being fortunate, how some chance happening, perhaps infinitesimal, stops us crossing the threshold of despair and allows us to live. It is raining, but it is not windy. Or else, it is raining and it is also windy: but you know that this evening it is your turn for the supplement of soup, so that even today you find the strength to reach the evening. Or it is raining, windy and you have the usual hunger, and then you think that if you really had to, if you really felt nothing in your heart but suffering and tedium - as sometimes happens, when you really seem to lie on the bottom - well, even in that case, at any moment you want you could always go and touch the electric wire-fence, or throw yourself under the shunting trains, and then it would stop raining. (Primo Levi, If This Is A Man, trans. Stuart Woolf)

And I liked that bit, because as horrible as it is, I felt like it was quite a clever and accurate observation, and he put it very simply... It also reminded me of a poem 'Luck in Sarajevo' by Izet Sarajlic, which goes:

In Sarajevo
in the spring of 1992,
everything is possible:

you go stand in a bread line
and end up in an emergency room
with your leg amputated.

Afterwards, you still maintain
that you were very lucky.

Which is the same idea - that however awful it is, it could always have been worse, and you do still consider yourself lucky that it is not windy, and that you have only lost your leg.

Sigh.

This isn't really helping with what to talk about in the seminar, I'm not making any sense, and I've got work to be getting on with and a fresh pot of tea that needs drinking.

Have a wonderful evening. You look lovely tonight.

It's midnight and I need to distract myself from reading...

So I think I should maybe resurrect this blog. Although I guess it can't really be classed as a resurrection as it never really got written in to begin with...

Well... you know, I've been busy. Lots of exciting things happened. I worked in a hospital. I went to university. I came home and worked in a hospital. I went back to university.

Which is where I am now, and also why I'm here, looking for any distraction.

I'm supposed to be reading If This Is A Man, by Primo Levi. I have 75 pages left. I can't cope anymore, I've had to take a a break.

(I've been on this break since 2pm.)

It's not that it's badly written... although it is badly translated. It's just that Levi's account of his time in Auschwitz is never really going to be 'enjoyable' reading, and I'm kind of in the mindset where I'd rather read Are You Dave Gorman? again instead.

Which is bad. Because I have to read this for my seminar on Tuesday morning. And also because it feels morally wrong to skim-read, or skip bits, or give up altogether and just go to bed.

Sigh.

Today I've been very productive. I read a bit. I went to tri club and did a swimming session. I got back and cooked enough food for either four people or four days. I observed my friend Lord D. (who is not really a Lord, but we never talk about that) try and break into our block. I made hot chocolate for him, our Cat Rob (who also isn't a cat, but we never talk about that, either) and my two neighbours. We watched an episode of Jeremy Kyle on youtube because the Cat mentioned the Westboro Baptist Church and we rushed to see Mr Kyle take them on, which basically seemed to consist of Shirley Phelps saying 'WE ADHERE TO THE STANDARDS OF GOD' and Jeremy Kyle saying 'You're DERANGED!'.

Okay, I just clicked on another page that was up and someone appears to have googled 'screwdriver in head x-ray' on my laptop. Bit concerned.



I would imagine this came up following more talk of how my neighbour, the Actor, stabbed the Cat in the eye with a plastic sword on Friday night. We never talk about that incident.

Right. I've now finished my hot milk... I've watched an interview with Louis Theroux on youtube... I've opened a word document to start drafting up a script that Lord D. and I have to have done by Thursday night... and I've typed nothing in it thus far.

I should probably go to bed.

Although I am totally going to come here more often. It's the last place anybody would think to look for me.

They'll never find me here, I laughed, eyes streaming with plastic swords.